Do we always need a reason to be jealous? Do we always need a reason to love?
In a relationship, pulling the “Un/Reasonable” card is always tricky. A couple gets into fight, the girl is jealous of the guy’s new hot co-worker, and the guy lightly says, “Honey, you’re being unreasonable, u know that?”. Another time the girl asks the guy to accompany her for a mall trip. “We’ll just go in for a quick window shopping,” the girl says. A quick window shopping turns up to be 3 hours. 3 pairs of shoes and 5 dresses later, the guy is furious, and thinks that 3 hours of shopping trip in unreasonable. The girl then replies, “Oh sure. THIS, you say unreasonable but having me to wait 5 hours at the shop while you’re getting your car done is reasonable!”
There was long silence after that. The girl’s mind goes to the early days when they just started dating. When everything was so easy, and… reasonable. It all felt so natural and reasonable when he follows her like a dog on her 5 hour shopping trip, having him to wait on her while she’s getting her nails and hair done, picks her up when she just finished shower and when finally ready an hour after he still managed to compliment her, “You look very beautiful tonight”. Now, none of them is reasonable anymore.
The guy’s mind also wandering to the early days. When she was sweet enough to accompany him at the shop while getting the car done, when she’s so loveable she shows up at his workplace to bring him and his team lunch, when she had so much trust on their love that she thinks jealousy is such a waste of time and energy.
So is it true that romance evaporates as relationship grows? Is it true in the name of efficiency, comfort, or whatever, it is okay to let romance go? I know, I know, all the things in the above are ridiculous, but they are just some random exaggerated samples of what romance is, to some couples. Some things that were considered “reasonable” during the early days of dating, just sound silly when you’re entering your 3rd year together. It just sounds silly now having to meet your girlfriend from work all the way in Bintaro while your office is in Menteng and you live in Cikini. It sounds impossible having dinner with your boyfriend in the middle of a hectic week, while your clients are constantly chasing you. And when you actually do it, it is only an obligation that you need to fulfill from the “Relationship Handbook”. Don’t you remember how you used to always find ways to make these things work?
Okay, okay, it's not like ALL THE TIME you need to do this. Maybe , maybe it's true that in the name of efficiency, and that you've reached to that certain level of "comfort" with your significant other, doing whatever you refer to "romantic acts" intensely may get a little too much.
But sometimes you don’t even realize that it’s evaporating. You just know when it’s gone. So what happens when it’s gone? Is your relationship doomed? Does the love stop? Is it the end? Not necessarily. You just simply need to click the “REFRESH” button.
*Click.
And just like that, you’ll realize that for certain things in life, you DON’T need a reason.
In a relationship, pulling the “Un/Reasonable” card is always tricky. A couple gets into fight, the girl is jealous of the guy’s new hot co-worker, and the guy lightly says, “Honey, you’re being unreasonable, u know that?”. Another time the girl asks the guy to accompany her for a mall trip. “We’ll just go in for a quick window shopping,” the girl says. A quick window shopping turns up to be 3 hours. 3 pairs of shoes and 5 dresses later, the guy is furious, and thinks that 3 hours of shopping trip in unreasonable. The girl then replies, “Oh sure. THIS, you say unreasonable but having me to wait 5 hours at the shop while you’re getting your car done is reasonable!”
There was long silence after that. The girl’s mind goes to the early days when they just started dating. When everything was so easy, and… reasonable. It all felt so natural and reasonable when he follows her like a dog on her 5 hour shopping trip, having him to wait on her while she’s getting her nails and hair done, picks her up when she just finished shower and when finally ready an hour after he still managed to compliment her, “You look very beautiful tonight”. Now, none of them is reasonable anymore.
The guy’s mind also wandering to the early days. When she was sweet enough to accompany him at the shop while getting the car done, when she’s so loveable she shows up at his workplace to bring him and his team lunch, when she had so much trust on their love that she thinks jealousy is such a waste of time and energy.
So is it true that romance evaporates as relationship grows? Is it true in the name of efficiency, comfort, or whatever, it is okay to let romance go? I know, I know, all the things in the above are ridiculous, but they are just some random exaggerated samples of what romance is, to some couples. Some things that were considered “reasonable” during the early days of dating, just sound silly when you’re entering your 3rd year together. It just sounds silly now having to meet your girlfriend from work all the way in Bintaro while your office is in Menteng and you live in Cikini. It sounds impossible having dinner with your boyfriend in the middle of a hectic week, while your clients are constantly chasing you. And when you actually do it, it is only an obligation that you need to fulfill from the “Relationship Handbook”. Don’t you remember how you used to always find ways to make these things work?
Okay, okay, it's not like ALL THE TIME you need to do this. Maybe , maybe it's true that in the name of efficiency, and that you've reached to that certain level of "comfort" with your significant other, doing whatever you refer to "romantic acts" intensely may get a little too much.
But sometimes you don’t even realize that it’s evaporating. You just know when it’s gone. So what happens when it’s gone? Is your relationship doomed? Does the love stop? Is it the end? Not necessarily. You just simply need to click the “REFRESH” button.
*Click.
And just like that, you’ll realize that for certain things in life, you DON’T need a reason.
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